לז"נ הני תרי נשי, רות בת צבי יהודה ופעסיל* בת בונם ע"ה יום
השנה ז' כסליו
There is no mention anywhere in Shas,Tur & Shulchan
Aruch about lighting a candle on the day of a Yahrzeit.
The
Mishna in Ms.Brachos (53a) that says not to use a Ner Shel Meisim
for Havdalah, refers to a candle used for the Levaya etc.
and not
a Yahrzeit candle, which probably may be used for Havdalah.The Gemoro in
Kesubos (103a) Rebbie left a Tzavo’oh with his
sons to
have a candle burning at the table refers
to Shabbos candles and not Yahrzeit candles.
The first mention of Ner Neshama is probably the Kol Bo
in Hilchos Yom Kipurim. The Kol Bo writes to
light a Ner for deceased parents, on Erev Yom Kippur, so
they will have a Kapparah. The parents have a Kapparah, because
of ברא מזכה אבא, The Mitzvohs a child
does benefits the deceased parents.
The Tur writes (630) There is a special Inyan
to have lots of candles in Shul on Yom Kippur. In the olden
days, the largest and one of the few expenses a Shul had, was
Ner Lamo’or. Beeswax was a very expensive commodity.
It is possible, the Chachamim tried to entice
people to donate Ner Lamo’or, therefore attached the
special Segulah of Kappara for the Meisim, a Siman Tov
for the living and the Ner Hashem Nishmas Adam for a
Yahrzeit candle.
The Chasam Sofer (Shu"t #6:27) writes he is unaware of a
so-called מצוה רבה to light Yahrzeit candles at home or even at the Kever.
The ביאור הלכה ס' תקיד quotes from the שו"ת
כתב סופר (O.Ch65) that "on Yom Tov when we may not light
a נר של בטלה ( a candle that has no purpose) it is best to light
the Yahrzeit candle (if it wasn't lit before Yom Tov) in the room where you
eat (purpose) or even better, to light it in Shul.(Mitzvah)
Only for a שעת הדחק may we light a Yahrzeit candle for parents*
since it's done for their honor (כיבוד אב ואם)
According to the Maharshal even though lighting a candle for
parents may not be a Mitzvah, but since everybody lights candles and some are
even מקפיד on this more than other Mitzvos, therefore, we allow him to
light the candle on Yom Tov, so he
will not be מצטער and have no Simchas Yom Tov.
*She & her family were involved in saving from the Nazis
ym"s
hundreds of families. Amongst them, my Mother's ע"ה entire
family.
hundreds of families. Amongst them, my Mother's ע"ה entire
family.
Yehi Zichrom Baruch
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